If you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all, was a rule my mother taught me; but its does seem to me that there are certain people who just don’t abide by that rule. Here are what people has said to me when they really shouldn’t have.
We all has encounter certain people who think they can talk freely, about whatever comes into their head. I’ll admit I do the same – but the different here is when I do it, I always think before I speak. But for some people, they haven’t learnt that trick and it just border on complete rudeness.
I was always taught, if you can’t say anything nice, then don’t say anything at all. But the number of people who just seem to ignored this and think they all high and mighty by saying whatever comes into their head. I can’t help but feel some people do need to take heed and really think before they speak. I wouldn’t say it to you – so why say it to me?
These are genuinely real statement that people has said to me when they really shouldn’t have. To them, they probably thought I would take it all in good humour when it all it does is just make me feel terrible as a person.
When I was pregnant, this is what a woman who comes up to me and said while working at my old place. To this day, I never forgot it. ‘’When your baby is born, it going to be huge.’’
Yup she really said that. Ok picture this scene, I was desperately trying to keep my baby in me. I had loads of medication to help me keep it in, one such was a course of steroid which was designed to stop me having a miscarriage. The side effect was weight gain and yeah I did balloon up. It wasn’t great but I was fighting a battle to keep my little baby in me. One afternoon a colleague came up to me – well corned me in the bathroom and said this: ‘’ ’When your baby is born, it going to be huge”. I was absolutely flabbergasted and I was ready to tear her in pieces (well they do say, don’t mess when a pregnant women) but a top manager came in and I decided to let it go so I walked out. I since refuse to ever speak to her again. The irony (if you want to call it that!) the baby wasn’t growing and was tiny.
Which does lead me to my next point (and explained what happen next in my pregnancy).
Why are you still child-free?
Where my parents live, it’s the most family friendly area around. It’s just outside of London and it the quaintest Christian English village in the whole of the UK (that what I think anyway). The whole area is designed for family as there is schools, playgroups, etc. So one afternoon while minding my own business, I bumped into this lady I’m on good term with. I always greet someone politely and with good manners. But it wasn’t returned to me. She blurted out that It was strange I didn’t have a child yet, and asked why I was child-free. Yup she really said that. I sighed as I didn’t really want to tell someone my whole pregnancy issue, so I politely changed the subject and started to say good bye to her. Once I got home I sat down and wrote Why I’m ok with not having children. If anytime someone point out to me on why I’m still child-free, I now just point out that article.
How is retirement going?
Lately, when I tell people that I work for myself, I’ve been getting this response, ‘how is retirement going?’. Err, what. I’m not retired – I still work but just in comfort of my own home. I’m not spending all day on a golf course or watching sky news. I work. I reckon people say this to me as it just jealously and they themselves would love to be anywhere but their work place.
Have you lost/gained weight?
Someone closed to me seem to be obsessed with people weight as she always remarking – either to me or to someone walking down the street about their weight. It really grinds me and Richard often can see smokes coming out at me as I’m just flaring up under the surface. Ok sure I do seem to yo-yo my weight, but what I don’t want is someone constantly remarking about it. Lots of people seem to have enough problem with their self-esteem without someone constantly belittling it.
How is your finance situation?
Another person who is close to me is obsessed with money! So every single conversation is about money. You can’t go more than 5 minutes without the mentions of money. So the topic of how my financial situation is going is never too far away. I always reply back that it going fine and it ok. I often think they do this as a way for me to spill the beans and to tell them exactly how much money I make each month. To those who are wondering, it enough to pay my mortgage, my gym and to go on day trips. I have to ask that person on how their financial situation is going?!
So that only a small snippet of what people has to me when they really shouldn’t have. I could be here all day.
So now I’m posing you the questions, I’m sure you have been in similar situation where people just speak out of context. What is the worst – or even the rudeness thing someone has ever said to you?
Please do tell me in the comment box and perhaps I can relate to it. We all been there and could quite happily wear the t-shirt.
Speak now or forever hold your peace.