Usually, when I do an outfit post or picture, I like to dress up and show you some pretty dress. But this time I thought I would show you a few of my casual wear and what I wear on a day to day basis. I must admit, as much as I love to dress up, I wouldn't exactly go to Tesco in them. So on a day to day basis, I'm usually in jeans and a top. ⠀
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If I were to describe my style, it would be summed up in two words: quirky and fun. I'm sure you realise by now I don't like boring black fashion – I do fun, bright, colourful style. Case in point is this Collectif watermelon dress. You can't get more quirky and fun fashion than this, can you?⠀
I like my clothes to reflect a lot of my personality, eternally youthful while also quirky and fun. Yup, that pretty much summed up me. The saying, you are who you are by the clothes you wear, really does hold up with me.⠀
I'm still that little girl who had a dressing up box as a child and would play dress-up; now I just have a wardrobe filled with more clothes than I could ever need as my dressing up box. I still like to have fun with my clothes, and I haven't lost that childhood wonder about clothes. And I don't think I ever will.⠀
Overall, what I'm saying is that this Collectif watermelon dress reflects who I am as a person and also my style. I also believe it represents how fashion shouldn't be all serious; it should be fun and should put a smile on a person's face.⠀
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If I were to describe...

* Stare at the computer screen completely blank, not sure what write*. Pretty summed up my week really - a blank space. Yup got writer block. ⠀
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* Stare at the computer...

A girl who just love polka dots! Also, you can see the *bad* dyed job I did when I thought it would be rock and roll to go blue. Haha ⠀
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A girl who just love...

When I see a floral dress it like a moth to a flame. ⠀
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When I see a floral...

Just adding some yellow flowers to brighten up your day and to make you smile. xx ⠀
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Think Before You Jump To The Wrong Conclusions

I think it important for not just us bloggers, but for anyone to know all the facts before jumping to any old conclusion. This is why it important to think before you jump to the wrong conclusions.

I’m saying this as so many people often stand on their podiums on social media and immediately jumped to the wrong conclusion, without knowing all the facts first. They will blurt out any old things without thinking, hold on I should perhaps think before I speak.

I like to think it just common politeness and something you would learn while growing up. But I’m seeing more and more people spurting out any of crap both online and offline, thus jumping the gun and running on 4 steps ahead; when they need to walk more slower and take those 4 steps back.

As wonderful and amazing social media and blogging are, people have seemed to forget to perhaps think before they speak and maybe analyze the situation. I’m all for free speech and that one of the reason why I love blogging so much – the freedom to write whatever I want. But you do need to remember, behind every computer/tablet screen is a real person with real emotions.

This could very well be a generation thing and perhaps I’m older and a little wiser, I try to always think before I write. I’m not the kind of a girl who is slagging off people; especially on a public forum.

Very often someone would read something on Facebook or on a blog and think, oh you’re talking about XYZ when really it has nothing to do with that person. Thus creating unnecessary drama.

Ok imagine this scenario, you are at school and you saw your best mate talking to your boyfriend; would you immediately think oh he’s cheating basted? Would you really go up to him and accuse of cheating, or would you speak to your best mate first and ask what they talking about?

That scenario works the same with online life, where you wouldn’t openly accuse a person of wrong doing, you would try to defuse the situation and get to the bottom of the truth.  Especially if you accuse them on an open forum.

I’m one of those people that can look at a situation and take an outside view; see it from an outsider perspective. I like to think of it as a superpower. If I can something been taken completely out of context, then I will speak up and defuse the drama. Not without knowing the full story first.

I will conclude that so often people do make snap judgments in a fit of rage. I mean we all seen someone having a full twitter meltdown while in a fit of rage. That’s never a good thing to do and while in a snap judgment it seems to be the most logical thing to do. Don’t and step away and perhaps think before you speak (or tweet).

My advice to any youngster or any new bloggers think before you jump to the wrong conclusions. As it will cause you drama and unnecessary pain. Look at a situation from an outsider perspective and take a step away from the computer/tablet.

For further reading, then may I suggest this blog post.

39 Comments
  • Shirley Corder
    September 9, 2017

    Anna, this is such a true post. I’m astounded by the way people jump to wrong conclusions on Facebook and lambaste the “guilty” party who may be totally innocent. It’s shocking. A is for Awareness Alert. #Build a Better Blog

  • Tricia Murdock
    September 9, 2017

    This is so true. I think that this goes along with immediate gratification. People form their opinions immediately because no one wants to take time to consider anything, because that takes time and effort. Thank you for the reminder. I am going to slow down and consider things before I jump to conclusions. Maybe if more of us did that, we could restore the voice of reason to the rest of society.

  • Louise
    September 9, 2017

    Very thoughtful post, as we do jump to conclusions and it’s not nice for other people. Thank you x

  • candy
    September 9, 2017

    My mom always said there are three sides. Her side, his side and the right side. We don’t always know all the reasons why so we shouldn’t jump to anything.

  • Aaliyah
    September 9, 2017

    This is very true, we should not jump to conclusions and always assume the worse. This is why we must learn to know all the facts before speaking on something we see. Great post!

  • Dieter
    September 9, 2017

    So true and I find it annoying seeing people actual doing this. I avoid conclusions without having all relevant facts

  • John Mulindi
    September 9, 2017

    I agree with you. Take time, get the facts before you make a decision.

  • Victoria
    September 9, 2017

    You are so right! In this day of tweets people act before they think. Thanks for this reminder to always take a step back, take stock before reacting to any situation instead of being clap back queens.

  • Aleah
    September 9, 2017

    I agree with you 100% there are many times when I see people just blurring out things. Then they usually regret it later but the damage is already done.

  • Rachel
    September 9, 2017

    Such an important topic for today! I constantly see people use social media to promote ill-informed opinions of all kinds. This is just another reason why we need to to teach critical thinking to our young adults in school.

  • Leanne Brookes
    September 9, 2017

    Yes, I definitely think that social media has perpetuated the situation. People don’t’ have the attention span to read more than a few lines these days. We’re a lazy generation!

  • Debbie
    September 9, 2017

    Very wise words Anna, There can be some real bitching going on over social media and stepping back to assess people’s actions and reactions is a good idea.

  • Karen (@KarenBanes)
    September 10, 2017

    So true Anna. My mantra when I see something I disagree with these days is ‘Just keep scrolling’. I’m not going to affect any real change in other people’s opinions by brawling on social media. I’d rather write a well-researched, balanced article on the topic that might actually get people thinking. On social I want to keep my engagement positive.

  • Syntich
    September 10, 2017

    You made some good points here, I really dislike when people jump to conclusions without knowing the actual truth. I have to deal with such people most times.

  • Kevin
    September 10, 2017

    I agree that we should be careful with our words. Its effect is really powerful. With words, we either encourage or break people.

  • Kara Simone
    September 10, 2017

    This is a much needed post! I don’t think people realize the effect their words can have on people. I think it is necessary to think before you speak or post it on social media or your blog.

  • Fiona
    September 10, 2017

    Oh my goodness that is exactly what happens especially on social media! Absolutely that you have to remember that there is a person behind the screen who has feelings!

  • Sarah
    September 10, 2017

    So very true. People are always quick to jump to the wrong idea and most don’t like to admit this!

  • Katie
    September 10, 2017

    This is an incredibly important reminder that needs to be discussed and coveted daily!

  • Melissa
    September 10, 2017

    I agree, people are quick to jump to conclusions about lots of things. Their triggers are pulled especially quickly online, because whatever you post online seems impersonal. But like you said, there are real people behind the screens, so we need to be cognizant of that.

  • Johnny McDreamer
    September 10, 2017

    HI Anna,

    I wholeheartedly agree with you. Nowadays people are quick to jump to conclusions, and take wrong decisions based on them.

  • juelzjohn
    September 10, 2017

    I always like giving people a benefit of doubt instead of judging unfairly.
    People needs to chill.

  • Elodie
    September 10, 2017

    AMEN! Honestly, I think we’re all guilty of doing it to a certain extent. I recently jumped to conclusions and accused someone of being passive aggressive when in fact, it was just a genuine questions. Maybe if I had taken the time to see she was American and not British, I wouldn’t have mistaken an inquiry with sarcasm. Social media makes it way too easy to assume people use a certain tone or talk about someone in particular but it’s so important to remember there is someone behind that screen!

  • L dove
    September 10, 2017

    This advice is age old and applies right across the board. I see it happen a lot with social media though, especially with blogging!

  • Lea
    September 10, 2017

    This is true especially to look at it from an outer perspective as it’s always important to consider all sides and then decide. Not the other way around.
    Lea, xx

  • Shelly
    September 11, 2017

    So true! I try to always remember not to jump to conclusions and give others the benefit of the doubt.
    After all, I would hope that others would extend that
    same courtesy to me!

  • Jelena
    September 11, 2017

    Totaly agree with you, Anna! Yesterday a was talking with my friends about jumping to conclusions, and we all agree that we must change that.

  • LeeAnn | My Veteran Woman Life
    September 11, 2017

    I have learned to just disregard most things I see on social media. I’ve been misjudged many times in my 44 years. I always try to give everyone the benefit of a doubt.

  • priyanka
    September 11, 2017

    Really thoughtful post. I love this type post. it’s self-improvement post

  • Elizabeth
    September 11, 2017

    I can honestly say I’ve never experienced this online… I wonder what event you’re talking about, lol! As for your best mate talking to your bf… I’d go for plan c: let them live their lives. They both have a right to speak to each other, and why shouldn’t they – they have a common interest in you. 🙂

  • Ickle Pickles Life and Travels
    September 11, 2017

    This is so very true – I also think that if you wouldn’t say it to the persons face, don’t post it! Kaz

  • Ickle Pickles Life and Travels
    September 11, 2017

    This is so true – it actually amazes me what people think they can say on social media. Kaz

  • Gareth Torrance
    September 12, 2017

    There is so much of this in life, even at work… I have to deal with it every day, where both my boss and our clients jump to conclusions about their websites without actually looking into it at all…

  • Steve KingUk
    September 12, 2017

    So very true, though it is often easy to jump to the wrong conclusion if people dont have all the facts to hand and simply want a reaction!

  • Yaya
    September 12, 2017

    Common sense isn’t so common nowadays. I used to think it was the younger generations, but I see that now that the 50+ crowd are on Facebook, they seem to have lost the filter. It’s always best to just go back to the old notion of thinking before you speak and act.

  • Su
    September 17, 2017

    I love that way of thinking. Of course you wouldn’t go up to someone at the school gate, so why do it online! Thank you for sharing.

  • Clare
    September 20, 2017

    One of my biggest bug bears on social media is cryptic statuses, that’s a sure fire way to get people jumping to the wrong conclusion.

  • Anna Nuttall
    September 20, 2017

    Yes! It is mine as well. I use to have this girl on my private FB profile who would write the vaguest cryptic messages and it was all aimed at someone to post, ‘you alright hun?’. It drove me mad.

  • Simone
    June 14, 2018

    Words of wisdom… great post!

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